We’re All Addicted to Something: A Psychiatrist’s Honest Take on Addiction Part 3
Healing Through Self-Reflection and Healthy Connection
Self-Reflection
In my work, I’ve walked with many battling addictions and others grieving loved ones’ addictions. Healing always begins with self-reflection.
Recovery isn’t about willpower alone but honesty with ourselves. Everyone has addictions; no one is immune. We all seek substitutes for authentic intimacy, which we crave from birth to death: to be seen, known, and loved unconditionally.
When addictive patterns that once comforted us become harmful and isolate us, despair can set in. This is the first step toward healing. Admitting this allows us to shift from being stuck to seeking comfort through connection with someone who empathizes and will walk the journey alongside us.
At first, this may be a trusted friend, but eventually, a therapist or psychiatrist is often needed, someone who sees us at our worst without judgment and truly cares. This means allowing ourselves to be fully seen, not the polished version we show the world, but the messy, vulnerable self.
Healthy Connections
The very wound of disconnection must be healed through safe, authentic relationships. For some, healing starts individually with a professional; group settings may feel too vulnerable or unsafe. We need a safe environment to discover our true self and our identity without pressure or judgment.
Recognizing our addictive patterns fosters compassion toward ourselves and others. Behind every addiction is a story, a cry for comfort, control, or connection.
This awareness helps us set boundaries, not from anger, but from care. We stop trying to fix or rescue and instead show up with honesty and love.
With guidance, we learn to set personal boundaries, communicate our needs respectfully, and change unhealthy patterns instead of becoming resentful, angry, or avoidant.
Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s maturity. Knowing and loving ourselves helps grow parts stunted by addiction. We develop the ability to delay gratification, regulate emotions, and practice self-control instead of impulsivity. These qualities, admired in others, help us become better versions of ourselves that we respect and love.
Look for the next and final blog in this addiction series, where we’ll explore making amends, embracing accountability, and discovering hope on the path to lasting recovery.
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Dr. Ladan Goble is a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of experience in mental health. She is passionate about helping individuals lead fulfilling lives and provides compassionate care and evidence-based treatment.
Dr. Goble is accepting new patients in her Scottsdale, Arizona office. To schedule an appointment, please call 480.661.3877.
Disclaimer
The information provided on this blog is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider for personal advice and treatment.
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