We’re All Addicted to Something: A Psychiatrist’s Honest Take on Addiction Part 4
Making Amends and A Message of Hope
Making Amends
Part of healing is facing the harm our addictions have caused to ourselves and others. Making amends is not about over-apologizing or self-punishment. It’s about taking responsibility, repairing trust where possible, and learning new ways to show up in our relationships.
We must look back with compassion and accountability, not guilt. When parents can say, “I’m sorry I wasn’t fully present,” or “I missed your heart,” healing begins.
When spouses can say, “I’m sorry my wounds hurt you,” and “Please let me know when my actions hurt you, so I can grow and not repeat my mistakes,” cycles of harm begin to break.
These words—“I’m sorry,” “please forgive me,” “you matter,” and “I want to learn”—heal far more than willpower or shame ever could.
Real recovery starts with real connection, being known and loved without needing to perform.
When amends can’t be made directly because people are gone, or reconciliation may not be safe, we honor the process by living differently going forward.
A Message of Hope
We’re all addicted to something, but we’re also all capable of healing. Your story is not over. And the same places where you’ve felt the most broken can become the places where you offer the most hope to others.
As a psychiatrist, I don’t fix people. I help them find the root of their pain, understand their patterns, and create space for healing. It’s slow, messy, and non-linear, but always possible.
If you or someone you love is struggling, hear this: you are not broken. You are human. And you are not alone.
What was broken in relationship must be healed through relationship. The safety, compassion, and connection you needed as a child is still possible today.
Recovery is about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that had to hide to survive. It’s about being seen without shame, loved without conditions, and learning how to trust again.
Your Story Isn’t Over
No addiction is too strong. No wound is too deep.
If this resonates with you, start here: reflect on what you needed as a child. Consider what parts of you went into hiding. Bring them into the light. You are worthy of healing. Your story doesn’t end in addiction; it can begin again in connection.
Please reach out if you’re ready to begin.
Read all four parts in this series:
Dr. Ladan Goble is a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of experience in mental health. She is passionate about helping individuals lead fulfilling lives and provides compassionate care and evidence-based treatment.
Dr. Goble is accepting new patients in her Scottsdale, Arizona office. To schedule an appointment, please call 480.661.3877.
Disclaimer
The information provided on this blog is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider for personal advice and treatment.