When Fathers Show Up: A Father’s Day Reflection
As a psychiatrist and as a woman who grew up without a father, I have lived both the clinical and personal realities of fatherlessness. This Father’s Day, I write not only to honor good fathers but also to reach those who never had one, and those who are becoming one.
The Impact of Fathers
Fathers shape identity. They don’t just provide; they affirm, protect, guide, and call out strength in their children. I’ve seen in therapy sessions, and felt in my own story, how the absence of a father can leave deep wounds: insecurity, mistrust, shame, and a longing for stability.
But I’ve also witnessed the healing power of fatherhood done well, most intimately through my husband.
Watching a father care for his children can reshape how we see a man’s role in the family. When he sacrifices sleep, sets aside personal ambitions, and carries the weight of responsibility, not out of obligation, but out of love, it speaks volumes. A faithful father strives daily to be the example his children need. In a world that often minimizes or misunderstands masculinity, he chooses to stand tall, with gentleness, strength, and consistency.
The Role of Humility
Perhaps most powerful is the humility of a father who can own his mistakes, not with shame, but with sincerity. When fathers admit they’re wrong, they show that being a parent isn’t about being flawless but about being honest. This kind of vulnerability teaches children they’re not wrong for feeling hurt or confused. It gives them permission to be human, too. Such humility builds trust, creates safety, and reminds us that love isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence, repair, and grace.
This is what brings hope and healing to the next generation: men who answer the call, who step into fatherhood with courage and humility. If you are a father, or have the opportunity to be a father figure, you are more essential than you may realize. Your words, your actions, your consistency, and yes, even your honest apologies, form the framework of identity in your sons and daughters.
The Good Father
Our culture may downplay the role of a dad, but Scripture does not. God calls Himself Father, a protector, provider, guide, and source of identity. Jesus, in His compassion and strength, reflected the Father’s heart to us all. Through Him, even the fatherless can know they are deeply loved and never abandoned.
So, to the fathers who stay and strive — thank you.
To those healing from absence or loss — there is hope.
And to the men rising to lead with love, humility, and purpose — keep going. Be the father you were created to be. Happy Father’s Day.
Dr. Ladan Goble is a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of experience in mental health. She is passionate about helping individuals lead fulfilling lives and provides compassionate care and evidence-based treatment.
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